FET transfer drama





Natural FET's may be easier on the body, but not so much on the mind.  Going from such a controlled medicated cycle of IVF to a natural, opk monitored FET cycle is making me cray cray.... as if I wasn't already. So much of this cycle and the success of this cycle relies on me, and that is something new.  All other medicated cycles of having no control to being the main person in control is quite a change.  I've been peeing on ovulation test strips since 5/1 and haven't yet seen my surge.  It's getting close, and will probably happen tonight or tomorrow, but I haven't yet seen that little happy face smiling back at me.  I went in for a follie scan and bloodwork on cd16 (Sunday) after calling the RE  regarding being worried about missing my surge.  I was advised to check for a surge 2x's a day, and I'm currently checking 3-4 times a day.  Dr. B assured me he didn't think I would miss it and that I'm still on track, but that he would bring me in.  The visit revealed that I would be surging soon (tonight or tomorrow) and that I have a lead follie of 22m and my uterine lining was 8.

Since my follie is large enough and my lining was thick enough, I was instructed to use the HCG trigger shot this evening if I didn't get a surge on my own.  Well, I didn't, so I'm off to do the shot.  I really hoped to not have to use the trigger shot, so I wouldn't have to worry about a false+ hpt test.  And because, aside from progesterone and estrogen after ovulation, that would make me completely drug free. oh well, I'm used to them, so whatev. 

But, here's my main dilemma: My embryo transfer is set for 5/15 at 12:00.  That is 8 days past a surge.  And, 6-7 days past Ovulation.  And, I don't feel confident about the timing AT ALL. Everything I've read and heard is that you transfer the thawed embryo how many ever days it was frozen on that matches the day past ovulation you are.  So, in my case, my embryos were frozen as 5 or 6 day embryos (I honestly can't remember, and that is a question I will obviously be asking).  Therefore, the transfer should take place 5-6 days past ovulation.  NOT 7!  So, my transfer should be 5/13 or 5/14.  NOT 5/15!  I have searched and searched hoping to find someone who had a transfer set up like this and haven't found one similar cycle!  I'm really afraid that a transfer of 5-6 days past ovulation is much better than 6-7 days past ovulation.  Especially since my appointment isn't until 12 o'clock.  It seems there is a 24 hour leeway, but I feel that 7 days would be pushing it.  Why push it? 

Maybe I'm being crazy?  Maybe I'm obsessing? Maybe I need to turn my brain off, have a glass of wine, and let the professionals do what they do best?  I told myself I wasn't going to do this.  But it's kinda hard when you have to detect your ovulation yourself to not obsess.  It's kinda hard to not obsess when your spending 3k for one attempt.

So, what would you do?  What do you know regarding this issue?  What have you read?  Please share and words of wisdom in the comments.  :)

To end on a positive note, while I am obsessing over the transfer date, and I want to make sure I do my best to make this as perfect a cycle as it can be, I'm still going into this with a much different attitude.  Yes, I'm hopeful and positive, but I'm not overly hopeful, positive, or expecting anything.  And, this is huge for me. Beginning with my first clomid/iui cycle, I've had such high hopes for my picture perfect cycles.  I always thought "this has to be it, why wouldn't it be?" I've finally gotten past that naive positivity. Yes, we will be thrilled with a BFP, but will be super cautious until we hear a HB.  But, if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen.  And that IS OKAY.  I just want to make sure I do all I can do to help it work.  That way I don't look back and regret not questioning the RE's timing.  I'd rather bother him and be embarrassed to be obnoxious now, than regret it later.